Caleb and I have learned something’s about being an interracial couple. Most of the time, our different race status isn’t even an issue. But there are a few mind shifts we’ve had to make.
1️⃣ We had to expand the capacity of understanding. Especially as the non minority in the relationship, you’ll have to validate and honor feelings you might not understand. There are times your partner will feel offended or hurt and you may not see why. You’ll have to be understanding and supportive anyways.
2️⃣Minorities of the same race often have an intuitive language. They get each other when it comes to certain things. Hair texture, culture, family, food, the way we’re treated. When you’re with someone of a different race, you’ll have to give up that they’ll get you on these things.
3️⃣ We had to be ok with some unknowns. You don’t know what hardships will be in your future because you’re interracial. For instance, when you get married and have kids, you’ll be raising children of a different race from you. You might not be able to relate to their experiences. You’ll have to find a way to deal with that plus other hardships you can’t anticipate.
Dating interracially doesn’t have to be that different at all. Love the one you’re with. Be understanding and gracious. Know that no relationship is perfect. And promise to always support each other no matter what.
All you need is love!!
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